Drama

 Being a girl is hard work.

Making and keeping friends is hard work.

Lately we have been having some friend drama going on.

It started with a neighbor snapping at my kids telling them they are rude and mean.

They were I'm sure.

All kids are.

The problem is as moms we don't want to see our own kids as the bullies or snotty kids.

We refuse to see it and can't possiby think our kids would or could ever do such a thing.

Well they can.

Even the really sweet ones.

It's really hard to sit back and watch things happen and let the kids work it out on their own. It's really hard knowing your child was all alone at recess crying because a friend told her she didn't belong when she asked if she could play.

I worry about bullying, I worry that my kids might be the bullies.

They are sweet kids and I'm trying my best as a mother to teach them right from wrong but I also know that my kids will make wrong choices and I hope they learn and grow from them. There are plenty of things I did as a kid that I regret to this day. Its a part of life and we are all still learning and growing and learning how to treat each other.

The hard part is that I don't know what happens when the kids leave for the day. I don't know how they play and treat others. I don't know how they really act when put into large groups of kids and when I'm not around.

I would love to be a fly on the wall.

I hope that I can do my part in teaching them to be Christ-like and kind and to love and accept everyone. Thats all I can do.

It would be nice if parents would stop tattle telling and getting involved with things and not letting the kids work it out. 

When Tallie came home telling me she cried, I of course wanted the chew the little girl out and let the mom know how UN sweet her child is sometimes but I didn't. I gave Tallie tips and ideas on how to find new friends, how to start conversations, how to mend a friendship and let her know she does belong.

She came home smiling with good news that she tried one of my ideas and now the girls are friends again.

The world is full of mean people and I can't shelter her or hide her away, I can only prepare her on how to handle life.

That is my biggest calling.

It's hard and daunting. 

I had a parent teacher conference with the girls teachers and they are doing so good. Great workers, listeners, never speak out or get in trouble in class and doing so great in all their work. They even said they they are such good friends to others.

That made my heart smile.