We have these neighbors that live close by who I really like. We have yet to really hang out with them but the wife was my music chorister in Relief Society when I was in the Presidency. I have always taken their family Christmas treats and have told TJ many times that I think we should become friends with them. Last year the husband sang and played his guitar at the Christmas party. He is in a band for a living and really good. He is really funny and so is she.

I just found out today that he was arrested for rape of a 3 year old girl who lives across the street.

I am just SHOCKED and somewhat in denial. With the pictures and detail to story that the toddler drew and told you can't not believe her. No child wants to say the things she said. Most kids would be embarrassed to mutter the words she had to say. So you know she is not lying. I can't even imagine the guilt I would carry to be that toddlers mom knowing that I sent her to play and sent her to that situation. Knowing that this child while enduring the pain is wishing for her mom to rescue her and protect her. I know that it wouldn't be my fault but I am the protector of my children and when things happen to them I can't help but think "if only I would have kept her home.." I don't know how I would function if something like that were to happen to one of my kids. I can't imagine what the wife of the rapist feels. Does she believe him when he says he didn't? You would want to believe your husband but at the same time would you wonder if he has done anything to your own daughter while you were away. She is talking about moving. She has been shunned by her neighbors. I feel so awful for her.

Makes me think about my family and how we always need to be on our guard. No matter where we live (even in mormon ville). You can never be too careful or too lenient with your kids. The people who sexually abuse kids are almost always friends, family and neighbors. People you are close to. Makes me sick.